Hi Folks -
How's Life?
Placid?
Playful?
Problematic?!
It will pass!
About the last post on Relationships Dying, there were some agreements.
Prasad says relationships die when you start losing hope in the person you love.
So very true!
Sometimes it is a long drawn out, painful process.
At other times, a quick cut and a long period of anguish!
Either way, one does wonder how this could happen to us.
This resonates with today's topic of how to take life in general.
With our colleagues, relatives and the larger friends' circle.
Sometimes, there are misunderstandings, flippancy, anger, a sense of betrayal and we wonder -
How did this happen?
Did I get the signals wrong?
Was the friendship/relationship not as deep for him/her as it was for me?
How should I take such relationships?
At face value?
Or by going deeper?
Maybe we could learn from sources which are outside us, about these storms raging inside us.
You know, the same drama is being replicated in Nature too.
After unseasonal heavy rains, mud-slides, wild fires, droughts, famine and messed up seasons in many parts of the world, the Icelandic volcano boomed.
Quite spectacularly.
Schedules, routine life was thrown out of gear on ground, in air, and in and under water.
All species suffered.
With increasing frequency, people and places are facing questions which they had not thought of or ignored before-
What exactly is happening ?
Why?
We never expected Mother Earth to be so ferocious.
How could she do this to us?
She's almost turned her back on us -
What happened?
It happened and will happen again because we take things for granted.
We carry on without a care, working hard to improve our living standard, to get more for less, going against the grain in many ways, ignorant or ignoring of the consequences.
Then something earth-shaking of this magnitude happens and there is a momentary pause.
Until help arrives and everyone strives to get back to the familiar levels of comfort as soon as possible.
The poor are so relieved at mere survival that they get on with their lives taking these extra challenges in stride.
They too have no choice!
Had we respected Mother Nature, not taken her at face value - kind of, its all there, grab it! - we would not have to face such disasters.
What happens outside, is merely a reflection of what is inside.
Should we take people at face value?
We wear many hats in a day - in office, at home, in relationships, with friends-
Many times, there is a jolt - why did he/she really behave this way?
People , even close relatives, are different when you scratch the surface.
They talk behind our back, are nasty, shallow, emotional, not to be trusted and so on.
Lets take a pause.
Did we unconsciously impose our own expectations on them?
To have a relationship of any sort with anyone, we first have to have one with our self.
Think it over-
Are you okay being by yourself?
In your relationship with people, is there an element of clinging?
Or fun at some one's expense?
Or taking the person for granted?
Be honest and find out what kind of an energy-stealer you are.
(We all are and should make a conscious effort to not to be one).
Meditate.
Do the Ho'oponopono regularly, to Mother Earth, - and who ever flashes in front of your eyes.
In very close relationships, give respect and love.
In all the other cases, take people for what they offer themselves to be.
At face value, trying not to be judgmental.
That is the best of themselves they are able to offer and who are we to quarrel?!
We have our failings and they judge us too!
Where Nature is concerned, the deeper one tries to understand the laws, one can be better aligned with the Universe.
Bye for now -!
Thursday, April 29, 2010
Sunday, April 11, 2010
When Relationships Die-
Hi Folks -!
Imagine a flat looooooooooooooooooooooooooooong stretch of road, clear sky, no clouds, and barren land right up to the horizon.
For mile over mile over mile.
Eventually, you finish your fuel and come to a stop.
Either sputtering or cursing, resigned or annoyed.
How BORING it would be!
Roads should have ups and downs, angles and curves, valleys and tough grading, and the scenery should be ever-changing!
So should the weather -!
Sometimes friendly, sometimes great and at other times threatening!
I remember a late evening in Jaisalmer, Rajasthan, when we had raced a speedily chasing, huge dust-storm - and just about made it to our rooms before it hit hard!
We'd stood, appreciated and admired for a while as it had appeared on the horizon in a long, low darkening shade - then suddenly realised it was approaching us and we had to drive across a stretch of open desert!
I shall always remember the thrill !
Another time, we had walked stepping right onto the foot-prints of the soldier ahead of us as he carefully trod on a hill-slope where a land-slide was going on!
And, of course, there was a fast-flowing river about 500' below on the other side!
I had also felt very happy and light-headed at the world's highest mountain-pass, Khardung-La,(18,380'), due to lack of oxygen and felt like singing loudly and dancing!
Such moments stand out in our boring routine and add spice to our life.
At least they do to mine!
Of course, they are memorable because we have survived them!
Its the same with our relationships.
Some people are related to us by blood - parents, siblings, uncles, aunts, close or distant cousins.
Others by marriage or love or liking.
A relationship may be a close one from childhood too.
Then suddenly, or imperceptibly, it starts to sour and dissipate.
Sometimes, the reasons are clear.
Someone has done better financially and there is jealousy.
Someone is considered to be liked more in spite of - so many things, and there is anger.
There is sadness, a feeling of resignation, of martyrdom.
These questions come up again and again in Past Life Regression sessions.
Why is this person so nasty to me?
Why did the friendship/love/marriage suddenly turn so bitter?
I have helped in every way. Given love, my life, money, have obeyed wishes, done so much -
Well, where blood-relations are concerned, those we cannot walk away from easily, it helps to remember that there has been a two-way pact between that person and us.
A pre-birth agreement.(Read the post!)
There were lessons to learn and teach on both sides.
A parent has to learn to be good and balanced, teach right values, sow seeds of confidence and happiness in each child so that the process, when continued, does so on the right path.
Siblings may have differing reasons for choosing particular parents, who are first in the list of choice for their lessons to learn.
But many parents have yet to sort out their own issues and egos.
If they are unable to be equal to all, it is their fault, not ours, as they are not learning their lessons.
In these - and the affairs of the heart, we may have decided to commit only for a short time to see if we can get over past life animosity.
Sometimes, we have decided to finish with our dues of past lifetimes - of ill treatment, anger, hatred, money -
If you find yourself at the receiving end of consistent nastiness, step back and take stock of your own thoughts and attitude in this life.
You may be showing a pretty facade but if you harbour anything negative, the vibes are going to home in right away.
Have you done anything to warrant such behaviour?
If you have, that's your chosen exercise to control the urge to continue.
If you find you really don't deserve to be treated with such hard feelings, then step back and move away.
It possibly comes from way back -
In my PLR sessions, clients have unearthed amazing past life situations when they had been really, really bad.
Those people are their mother, dad, mum-in-law, husband, wife, even boss and colleague in this life.
Each one of you need not wait to undergo PLR to cleanse your sins -
We do have a wonderful, proven tool .
Do the Ho'oponopono.
(Read the posts!)
Every day, as and when you remember, for who ever comes in your mind.
There is a very beautiful verse going around on the net which clarifies this seemingly intractable problem so beautifully.
Some people are in your life for a reason,
some for a season
and others for life!
So just relax and enjoy what is the fruit of your friendship and affection or love.
When paths seem to separate, move on.
Ranjana has asked if it is possible to meet our dead dear ones through PLR.
Yes, of course it is and many people have done and are doing so.
Just give them 3 months and they would be able to come.
Those who do not, will have good reason not to!
The most important thing is to take death in stride and carry on.
So whether it is the death of a dear one or a relationship, see what are the lessons for you.
Imagine a flat looooooooooooooooooooooooooooong stretch of road, clear sky, no clouds, and barren land right up to the horizon.
For mile over mile over mile.
Eventually, you finish your fuel and come to a stop.
Either sputtering or cursing, resigned or annoyed.
How BORING it would be!
Roads should have ups and downs, angles and curves, valleys and tough grading, and the scenery should be ever-changing!
So should the weather -!
Sometimes friendly, sometimes great and at other times threatening!
I remember a late evening in Jaisalmer, Rajasthan, when we had raced a speedily chasing, huge dust-storm - and just about made it to our rooms before it hit hard!
We'd stood, appreciated and admired for a while as it had appeared on the horizon in a long, low darkening shade - then suddenly realised it was approaching us and we had to drive across a stretch of open desert!
I shall always remember the thrill !
Another time, we had walked stepping right onto the foot-prints of the soldier ahead of us as he carefully trod on a hill-slope where a land-slide was going on!
And, of course, there was a fast-flowing river about 500' below on the other side!
I had also felt very happy and light-headed at the world's highest mountain-pass, Khardung-La,(18,380'), due to lack of oxygen and felt like singing loudly and dancing!
Such moments stand out in our boring routine and add spice to our life.
At least they do to mine!
Of course, they are memorable because we have survived them!
Its the same with our relationships.
Some people are related to us by blood - parents, siblings, uncles, aunts, close or distant cousins.
Others by marriage or love or liking.
A relationship may be a close one from childhood too.
Then suddenly, or imperceptibly, it starts to sour and dissipate.
Sometimes, the reasons are clear.
Someone has done better financially and there is jealousy.
Someone is considered to be liked more in spite of - so many things, and there is anger.
There is sadness, a feeling of resignation, of martyrdom.
These questions come up again and again in Past Life Regression sessions.
Why is this person so nasty to me?
Why did the friendship/love/marriage suddenly turn so bitter?
I have helped in every way. Given love, my life, money, have obeyed wishes, done so much -
Well, where blood-relations are concerned, those we cannot walk away from easily, it helps to remember that there has been a two-way pact between that person and us.
A pre-birth agreement.(Read the post!)
There were lessons to learn and teach on both sides.
A parent has to learn to be good and balanced, teach right values, sow seeds of confidence and happiness in each child so that the process, when continued, does so on the right path.
Siblings may have differing reasons for choosing particular parents, who are first in the list of choice for their lessons to learn.
But many parents have yet to sort out their own issues and egos.
If they are unable to be equal to all, it is their fault, not ours, as they are not learning their lessons.
In these - and the affairs of the heart, we may have decided to commit only for a short time to see if we can get over past life animosity.
Sometimes, we have decided to finish with our dues of past lifetimes - of ill treatment, anger, hatred, money -
If you find yourself at the receiving end of consistent nastiness, step back and take stock of your own thoughts and attitude in this life.
You may be showing a pretty facade but if you harbour anything negative, the vibes are going to home in right away.
Have you done anything to warrant such behaviour?
If you have, that's your chosen exercise to control the urge to continue.
If you find you really don't deserve to be treated with such hard feelings, then step back and move away.
It possibly comes from way back -
In my PLR sessions, clients have unearthed amazing past life situations when they had been really, really bad.
Those people are their mother, dad, mum-in-law, husband, wife, even boss and colleague in this life.
Each one of you need not wait to undergo PLR to cleanse your sins -
We do have a wonderful, proven tool .
Do the Ho'oponopono.
(Read the posts!)
Every day, as and when you remember, for who ever comes in your mind.
There is a very beautiful verse going around on the net which clarifies this seemingly intractable problem so beautifully.
Some people are in your life for a reason,
some for a season
and others for life!
So just relax and enjoy what is the fruit of your friendship and affection or love.
When paths seem to separate, move on.
Ranjana has asked if it is possible to meet our dead dear ones through PLR.
Yes, of course it is and many people have done and are doing so.
Just give them 3 months and they would be able to come.
Those who do not, will have good reason not to!
The most important thing is to take death in stride and carry on.
So whether it is the death of a dear one or a relationship, see what are the lessons for you.
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