Energy stealers - 2

Hi Folks !


I am back from a Past Life Regression Therapist's Workshop, two weddings, 4 wedding receptions, 3 days with wonderful old friends who had come from very far to attend one of the weddings and lots of nostalgia !

Come to think of it, these past couple of months have been all about reconnecting with past and forging new bonds through newly made relations.

I feel richer for the experience !


Now, its time to get back to work and routine. And that feels good too !

I had mentioned in a post 2 about 2 months ago that a few more classifications could be made to identify the Stealers of our Energy. Awareness is the first step to prevention, isn't it ?


Do you remember the types we discussed in an earlier post ?

Lets have a quick recap.


THE INTIMIDATORS -

They force everyone to pay attention to them by being loud, sarcastic and authoritative.

They love to be known as being inflexible and egocentric and believe these epithets to be compliments.

People fear that they will create a scene and are always anxious and afraid around them.

It is not always the old grandpas or dads or aunts who behave this way because life treated them badly.

It is they who revel in this percieved power over others and steal energy from those whom they intimidate.


THE INTERROGATORS -

They kind of hold inquisitions on even the most insignificant of topics and will catch you out. They are critical, cynical, manipulative , will harp on your faults and mistakes , remember every misdeed of yours and make you feel small.


POOR ME -

It is INTIMIDATORS who create the POOR-MEs.

It is an unconscious survival tactic learnt instantly.

The POOR-MEs will be pessimistic, worry over everything that is not in their control, have tears ready to flow at the remotest threat to them and elicit sympathy from all.

Nothing actually needs to go wrong for them, they become anxious, get overcome by graphically detailed imagined catastrophes and top up their energies from those around.

Then they 'feel better'!


ALOOF -

The INTERROGATORs can take some credit for creating the ALOOFs !

They desperately want attention but pretend to be bored, detached and uninterested, hoping all the time that they will be drawn into the goings-on by someone.

They may come across as sneaky, condescending and pass themselves off as great intellectuals who dont really like to mix, you know, but -aah !

One has to!

Actually, they desperately want to!

Each one of us has to think back to our own behaviour and decide honestly for ourselves as to which one we are.

We steal energy from others by being one of these because the others are also stealing our energy by being one of the these !

These four are the - kind of forceful, negative traits which are easy to identify.

There could be a few more added to the list, traits which start out as positive qualities but slide into energy-stealing, traits one should atleast be aware of.


THE OVERDOERS -


These people will be everywhere, in all the tasks, mundane to important and even wrest charge when it is not required for them to do so.

They give commands, unasked and unwanted suggestions and muddy the atmosphere by bulldozing their way even after repeatedly asked not to do so.

They feel it is their duty to either do everything according to their own standards or personally supervise every step with detailed instructions exasperating others.

They have no trust in someone else's abilities and find it impossible to give up the sense of power that this interferance gives them.

Basically, these are the people who dont know when to STOP. Have you come across them?

What could be the reason for this kind of Energy Stealing ?
Usually, it is one of the two - Ego or Fear.

A deeply hidden conviction that nobody is as good as them.

Or fear that someone may actually be!

They steal energy not in short bursts but in a continuous stream which is most frustrating to others.

By not allowing others to work at their own pace or choice, they also kill their creativity, sense of achievement and empowerment.

Then they love their power of being the only ones to do any work with finesse - or whatever they may, sometimes self-effacingly claim.


THE INTERRUPTERS -

Dont we all know them ?!

Someone stars to tell a joke or a story and this character interrupts with a snide remark, the end of the joke when it is still halfway or a guffaw or even a wink.

Or it is a question.

An unnecessary one.

Anything to divert the attention from someone else.

They dont always want it focussed on themselves too, would probably wilt under the pressure, but what they can't stand is for the limelight to be on others.

The cause is jealousy, of efforts spent more on this activity than on acquiring a skill or knowledge or acceptance of one's limitations.

Look in the mirror.

Which one are you ?

Meditate. .Go back to the earlier post for basics and practise regularly.

Stop stealing and stop being stolen from.

Any more types you can come up with ?

Do share.

Wishing you a peaceful and contented Christmas and a New Year of Awareness and Equanimity.

The Taj and Soul's Stages

Hi folks-

We have been through some horrifying times since the last post.

Some terrorists attacked Mumbai and killed many people by firing indiscriminately at a station, a cafe, the roads, hotels and even in a hospital.

Death was painful for all those who had died in every location, but somehow, the sight of the wounded, burning, yet valiantly, standing TAJ became an icon.

It kind of stood for this country with its all-absorbing large heart and spirituality.

The TAJ Hotel in Mumbai belongs to the Tatas. A family -

Hmnn -No.

Let me correct this.

The TAJ Hotel was built by the Tatas but every one who saw it fell in love with its understated, old-world charm and elegance even if they never once went in to have even a cup of tea.

One look at its beauty, and the hotel became 'their own', something they could be personally proud of.

The name TATA carries ingrained in it, hard work, vision, a sense of propriety, ethics and doing the right thing for the society at large, not only for those who work for it.

The house of Tatas is also known for its integrity, right from its inception.

People will swear by them, trust them.

It was J.R.D. Tata earlier, its Ratan Tata now.

It was Jamsetji, Ratan's great grand-father a hundred and fifty years ago.

Somehow, it stands for Patriotism.

Character.

Spirituality, though it is a business house !

When the TAJ was burning, none of the staff ran away.

They went beyond their call of duty, hid their guests, served whatever they could, refused to show the way to the terrorists and actually died in their defiance.

There were people who had worked for 20 and 30 years.

A pianist even knows what exactly he is going to play when the hotel reopens.

Ode to Joy.

He is so sure it will, and a couple of days after he spoke on TV, an advertisement from the House Of Tatas, befitting the hotel's majestic elegance, stated with quiet conviction that yes, It Will Prevail.

I find this whole thing so surreal -

Here you have hatred, vengeance, destruction on one side - and Character and Honour and Selflessness on the other.

In equal measure.

Do you remember The Seven Stages Of The Soul ?

In the First, the Infant Stage, there is fear, a tremendous, overpowering fear that if I dont kill, I will be killed.

So the man kills.

Destroys in large numbers.

These fearful souls who understand only the suvival instinct, are said to live in deep, deep dark jungles and mountains and are said to avoid all contact with any outsider for fear of death.

But then, deep darkness, depths and crevices are found in the mind too, aren't they ?

After thousands of lifetimes in this stage, learning to conquer fear bit by bit, comes the Second, the Baby stage.

Here, though the primitive fear is tamed, souls still find safety in a rigid structure -whether religious, political or ideological.

They are blind followers and love the strict discipline as it gives them a sense of security, of belonging.

There is no thinking, only obeying.

The third Stage is the Young Soul, when the appetite has grown, a sense of self has arisen.

These are the people who now lead or more likely, direct the Baby Souls to their deaths in the name of religion, ideology or god.

They crave power, whatever the cost to others but will make sure that they themselves are safe and secure.

In the society around us, it is these three stages that we are seeing in millions.

Daring, committed and ready to die for what they think is right.

Scary, isn't it ?

But then, there are also those who belong to the higher stages of evolution.

Those in the hotel who saved lives at the cost of their own.

The commandoes, the marines, the various forces, many civilians.

Those who have found it in their heart to still forgive the grievous wounds inflicted, the dear ones killed.

A ll those who gave blood and prayed and cried.

What do we do in the face of such hatred, destruction ?

Become a Mature soul.

Raise ourselves consciously to the fourth stage of understanding.

Start to become aware of the larger picture for ourselves, atleast.

Meditate.

Pray for those who have died.

Tell their souls that they have to now move on, to forgive their killers and to become aware of their spirit-guides who have come to receive them and move on to the dimensions that they have earned by the way they led their life on earth.

Meditation is an important tool for peace of mind.

Make it a habit, a part of your daily life like brushing and bathing.

After all, the mind also needs to clean out the garbage collected in the course of the day.

The calmer you are, the better will be the vibrations emenating from you.

Positive vibrations are powerful, not weak !

So go on, pray for everyone - those who have died and those who are killing.

Love you -