The Energy Stealers

Hi folks!

Today's post is about something very, very practical which you can start using immediately.

Whether you believe in life after life or rebirth or not, one thing is sure.

We are alive because we have life, or energy- spiritual energy, as some would call it.

We are beings of energy.

Now think.

Have you ever felt irritated/anxious/scared/ drained/apprehensive in someone's presence?

Did you feel relieved when you were able to get away?

Why does this happen?

We try to control our surroundings and the people around us to the best of our ability.

Some ask a 100 questions.

Others bear down on us with authority.

Some try to create an aura of mystery and superiority by being aloof.

Yet others are always in need of advice and help.

So how does this drama unfold?

Lets take an example.

A person is in the habit of asking a hundred questions.

Where did you go?

Who did you meet?

Who else was there?

Cant you remember?

What did they say?

But why didnt you say this?

Couldn't you have done that?

You get the drift?

They may be very close relatives or friends or the boss.

Their overt or mostly covert agenda is to find a fault and criticize.

We would call it a personality trait, habit, thats-how-he/she-is.

Even if its true, why do they behave this way?

They are setting up a drama.

When you start answering, you go on the defensive, become self-conscious , try to give complete attention-and thats when this type of person steals your energy from you.

You end up judging yourself by his standards and feel inadequate around him, thus lowering your defenses to let him drain you even more.

These are the INTERROGATORS.

Think back to your childhood, your immediate family, and remember how each member behaved.

Your mother, father, siblings,teachers, those older to you, because thats where the habit- patterns are set, seeds of offensive and defensive behaviour are sown.

If one has grown up with an Interrogator, even as a child, one starts to grow defenses.

You may become POOR-ME.

Think about all the people who get work done out of everybody by their clever manipulation.

They look so helpless, depressed, in need of succor, that you give in to their silent remonstration or open whining and end up being the sucker - yet again.

They have stolen your energy- again,leaving you irritated, guilty, for being unable to do more or just unsettled.

They always make you feel you could have done more for them, even when they are far away.

There is a third.

The ALOOF.

This type creates an aura of mystery around himself.

He will behave secretive, all-knowing, superior.

When someone tries to draw him out, he will give vague answers, forcing the person to struggle-and thats how the energy is stolen.

You would recognise many belonging to this category.

They themselves may be aware of this on a superior level, as a deliberately cultivated tool to impress, to get information and unaware that they are stealing energy from the other person but this is the hidden agenda!

The fourth one is called the INTIMIDATER.

Remember the neighbourhood bully,or certain 'friends' from school, a particular close relative(or two) who manipulated to get their own way?

It was not their way, it was everybody's energy they were after.

The moment you got caught up in their drama by responding or merely paying attention-obeying comes much later, you start leaking your energy.

So how do you stop this?

Refuse to be a part of someone else's drama.

To succeed in this, go back to your childhood and analyse what kind of dramas you were a part of.

Each person has traits of all these dramas, but there is always a dominant one.

Come to an honest conclusion about who you are.

Are you an Interrogator, an Intimidator,Aloof or Poor Me?

You wont need to be any of these if you are careful not to steal energy from others.

Instead, source your own energy requirements from the universe which is an abundant and unending source, the Fountainhead.

And how does one do that?

MEDITATE.

Whatever form of meditation you follow or have always been wanting to take up, do it right away.

If a formal session is some time away, try this-

Sit in a comfortable position,close your eyes and pay attention to your breathing.

Imagine the incoming breath going everywhere inside your body and cleansing it, topping up your energy.

Imagine the outgoing breath detoxing your mind and body.

It is the mind which creates the toxins, so calm it at least twice a day so that it does not create any.

Before troubling or affecting others, its going to affect you, remember!

Think this over.

Its interesting to become aware of the dramas being played out around you.

It is even more so when you stop identifying quickly and being a part of one.

Bye for now.