Desires

Hi Folks !

I am sorry I'm late ! I was galliventing!

Went to a beautiful litttle hill-station near-by.

Twice!

And then I worked very hard!

Went to Mumbai, took 3 Past Life Regression Sessions and a 2 hr lecture +qs-ans on one day and 4 PLR sessions the next day ! (Each session averages 2hrs).

Came back only this afternoon.

Now lets get to today's work!

To begin, thank you all for your comments and wishes!

Arun has some interesting questions -

How do we get rid of desires?

Is wanting to be Spiritual a desire too?

Or are desires only material?

Lets see -

What are desires?

A desire is wanting something for ourselves.

Either for something to happen or not happen.

A desire per se is not bad.

It motivates us, gets us out of our lethargy and connects us to our goals and purpose.

What one has to be careful about, is to make sure that it is our slave - and that it does not sneakily master us!

Desires are clever!

Wanting to get rid of a desire is also a desire! If you keep it in proper perspective, it helps tremendously. For eg, supposing you want something - a house of your own. Keeping it in the larger picture of your life will make this desire manageable in your mind.

Think about it this way- If I have a house, I will feel secure, I can concentrate on my job, get married / raise family /take care of my parents. I can have some plants, put out some grains for the birds, read, write, relax, meditate, have many happy times with my friends and relatives. It will be a place where not just me and my close family but where many will want to come and enjoy. It will be a happy place.

By the time you come to this point, the house has become a means and not the end. You have, by now, sublimated the desire and now, because others are also going to get a sanctuary, the universe will go all out to help you realise your desire.

Include and relax!

Wanting to be Spiritual is a good desire which should expand our thoughts and behaviour to include others around us, even the trees, the animals and the Mother Earth too.

Usually, desires are considered to deal with the lower Chakras -the grounding, the earthing.

Money, security, position, physical fulfilment.

If a desire helps us in grounding us, in understanding ourselves, if it does not harm or upset someone else, it is good.

One will know the difference - or the quality of the desire, deep within.

Now for Mandar's questions -

To begin with, you really deserve a clap for overcoming lethargy and for your perseverance - the morning walks, the gym and the harmonium!

When one truly wants to do something, the whole universe conspires to help one achieve it !

I am truly glad and commend you for this!

He has some questions which I will generalise -

Why does one want to pray for someone one does not know very well?

Well, we may have been closer to them in an earlier lifetime!

Truly!

If you feel like praying for someone, just do-

Actually, make this a habit -

When you have finished whatever daily ritual you follow, when you are feeling calm/happy/good/joyous at any time, just distribute that energy to everything and everyone.

Thank the trees, flowers, birds, the buses, trains, roads, buildings for the weight they carry, the work they do.

Wish that the people on the roads, the sellers, the beggars, everyone - everyone has a good day.

Just say - thank you, I'm grateful.

Wish happiness to everyone.

I do it all the time and feel wonderful, connected and light!

The next query -

Sometimes, tears come for no reason.

Why?

Tears can be of gratitude,joy, anger,sorrow and so on - but sometimes, they make us lose track and we may start to indulge without an identifiable cause. Sentimentality is not a strength but a weakness as it clouds our thoughts and vision. It is - well, everything is fine as long as it is in balance.

We should make sure it does not end up as a Poor-Me attitude!

Our mind is very clever!

Sit quietly and try to identify the root cause. Learn to watch your thoughts. When you detach yourself and examine, you will be able to identify.

Every thought in our mind is a seed sown, so let there be many of happinesss, gratitude and eventually, stillness.

Let me give you all a beautiful affirmation -

'I flow with the flow of life with confidence and joy'.

Say this as many times as you remember, you can let it play constantly in your mind.

Feel happiness and gratitude as you say it.

I shall talk about Affirmations in detail in the next post.

Until then, Be Happy -