Thursday, March 25, 2010

When Dear Ones Die -

Hi Folks -

Spring is in the air!

Indians welcome The New Year in the beginning of Spring and it is a wonderful day of prayers, cheer, good-wishes, temple-visits and good food, despite the rising prices!

After a hard, cold winter, it is the new beginning of a new cycle.

Science says that in 7 years, all the cells in our body change.

The old ones die and new ones replace them.

This is a process which goes on all the time, unobtrusively and silently.

For new shoots - or cells, or - things to grow, there has to be place!

So winter makes place for summer, old bark for new, ice becomes water, changes to vapour and becomes water /snow to be ice again.

Everything simply changes form, sometimes quite, quite unrecognizable in its new one -

Look at the butterfly!

Actually, we die every moment and are reborn too, the actual change being unseen (because we don't know where to look), except for the last one.

When we switch from form to content - !

When we leave the body -

In other words, when we die.

There is a huge problem here, when one thinks a little deeply.

Some don't want to think about death at all.

Some are afraid but resigned because one cannot avoid it.

Many are indifferent to it.

Some prepare in their own way by prayers and rituals and charity and discussions about after-life .

Many have violent arguments about any such thing being even a remote possibility!

(if so, why argue at all?! - but we shall let it be - !)

Having come to neat conclusions about death and the surety or impossibility of after-life and reincarnation, people then proceed to go back to their old clinging and intense love and emotional inter - dependence on/with others.

Today, let us look at how a dear and near one's death tosses all our intelligent and rational thoughts out with them, almost.

This is in answer to a few questions which I got in the mail over a period of time -

* Where are they?
* How are they?
*We are trying to contact them, but it's not happening.
*They wanted to see the son settled/daughter married/grandchild go abroad/do social work/help others/do so many things together /enjoy the fruits of hard work all these years -

* How can they be contacted?

Let us examine the necessity of these questions.

The readers and followers of the New Age books/ this Blog which deal extensively on these topics, would be aware of what is Death.

It is something which need not be in capital letters.
Let us take up the queries one by one-
*The dead go to a kind of Hall of Rest for a few weeks.

Then they review their just-concluded life and go to the dimension they have earned by their behaviour in that life.

The points of reference in the review are -

Did they accomplish what they had chosen to, before taking birth?

Where did they falter?

Could they break their habit-pattern?

What should be their next important lesson?

* Those who have been decent and kind and good to others, are fine. They are with their dear ones who have died before, either friends or relatives.

Those who have killed, raped, looted, caused harm to others in any way, go to different dimensions which are not pleasant.

*Mrs Khoshed Bhavnagari, Vispi and Rattu's mom used to advice people to wait for 3 months after a person dies before trying to contact them.
Mrs Nan Umrigar says the same.

So wait!
Let them be!

They have just gone to a place they did not believe existed or were worried it wasn't true, what they had heard, or are happily busy meeting others, or resting.

How quickly do you inform your family after shifting to a new place?

However good/holy we may perceive a person, not all may go to realms from where they can communicate.

Some may get busy in work and others may not want to.

It does not mean that they do not love you, it could be they want you to carry on with your lives, that they are sure you can.

* People in their 80s and 90s also have plans and dreams that they want to see coming to fruition.

It is true we would like for them to have seen those things happen, but one should just accept that it has not happened because they had not planned it before taking birth.
And nor had you.
Once they die, they realize where they are, get the bigger picture and there is no sorrow - if they are wise.

If there is hankering - and believe me, many, many non-believers too have this - they will definitely come back sooner than later.

The pain and anguish of unfulfilled dreams is felt by those who are left behind because their emotions and feelings and thoughts are all entangled in that person.

Many times, the dead person has given them an identity, a reason and now one flounders as this frame-work has suddenly disappeared.

There is all the paperwork and clothes and favourite things and the disrupted routine.

Realize that this is you feeling sorry for yourself, for feeling a bit cheated - how could dad/mom/he/she do this to me?

So for some time, go ahead and feel real sorrow .
Acknowledge that they meant a lot to you, more than you thought when they were alive.

Whatever you wished you had told them, tell them now.

They understand your deepest thoughts.

Do the meditation I'd given for the new year -

Do a calm closure with love and light.

And get on with work that will keep you busy mentally and physically.

Do the Ho'oponopono, its powerful and beautiful.

Do the 3 things given in the post GRATITUDE -

Take a deep breath, smile and thank them for being a part of your life.

* The only person authorized to get messages from the dead that I know of now is, Nan Umrigar through automatic writing through her son Karl.

Her i-d is ------- umrigar@vsnl.com

But come to terms with the fact that your dear one has died and gone to a different dimension.

Look within, meet the new stranger in the mirror who is one relationship short now, but is living, and has his/her own tasks to complete enjoyably.

Read the posts on The 7 Stages Of The Soul and Coping With Death, Nicely.

Bye for now -

2 comments:

Unknown said...

HI
ALONG WITH AUTOMATIC WRITING, CAN'T WE CONTACT THE DEPARTED LOVED ONES THROUGH REGRESSION? MAY BE NOT IMMEDIATELY... CAN REGRESSION BE ANOTHER ALTERNATIVE TO CONTACTING THEM?

Smits said...

Hi......My name is smita & I really like your blog.....I was wondering if you could help me out...I wanted to get in touch with my mother who passed away almost a year and a half back. She died a very painful & unnatural death & we are still deeplyt anguished by it. I was wondering if there is some way out....thanks a lot!!!